tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7036716039639193139.post3048374369102723305..comments2023-10-31T01:49:36.630-07:00Comments on Non-Monogamous Discourse: Naturalistic Arguments in PolyamoryJason M. Cherryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10190522470368617594noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7036716039639193139.post-42764878889641599822012-12-02T20:29:01.170-08:002012-12-02T20:29:01.170-08:00I think with both sexuality and the concept of mon...I think with both sexuality and the concept of mono or poly it can vary. For me, I feel that I was always polyamorous. I had to come out to myself. I hated myself for it because of societal norms around monogamy, things that many gay people talk about in there coming out stories. I also feel I was pansexual for as long as I had an awareness of attraction. I was 13 when I put the word bisexual on it (not knowing the word pansexual or the concept of other, non-binary genders yet) but I have always had feelings for a variety of people and multiple.<br />Of course, some people chose to be poly and some people experiment and come out as hetero-flexible or homo-flexible. Either way is totally valid.<br /><br />I think there is a problem in trying to figure out whether it's a choice but only because people focus on "Well why not choose normal then?" (by that they are referring to social norms of course) Even when you do choose, it's not that simple in many cases and it, quite honestly, doesn't matter. To me the underlying issue is societal - that need to ostracize what isn't the social norm.<br /><br />I also find the biological argument for non-monogamy to be inherently furthering the dislike of non-monogamy when speaking to monogamous people because it's claiming they are not normal. Personally, I don't care about normal, I care about consenting adults. The rest is all about trying to gain understanding, which is important, so it's best not to claim "more normal" with biological arguments in my opinion.<br /><br />Side-note - the word "trans-gendered" in this post should probably be transgender. Some people do say transgendered as well but it's generally not considered the right word/grammatically correct. Not to be nit-picky but to spread info as someone in the trans* community. :)Dannie Lee Parkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05531642170616056838noreply@blogger.com